Friday, February 27, 2009


This one is for a "friend" who battles for an unrequited love.
Sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person we love we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us. We missed out on so many beautiful things and simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns. Go for the man of deeds and not for the man of words for you will find rewarding happiness. The best lovers are those who are capable of loving from a distance, far enough to allow the other person to grow, but never too far to feel the love deep within your being. To let go of someone doesn’t mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his own HAPPINESS without expecting him to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free,but it is also setting yourself free from all fears, bitterness, hatred, and anger that is kept in the heart. Do not let the bitterness rare away your strength and weaken your faith,and never allow pain to dishearten you, but rather let you grow with wisdom in bearing it. You may have found peace in just loving someone from a distance not expecting anything in return.But be careful, for this can sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow. We can all survive with just beautiful memories from the past but real peace and happiness comes only with open acceptance of what reality is today. There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon become a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than just friendship, or the feelings he might have for you is just too far from how you love him. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves. You don’t have to be bitter on love. What you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself. Believe me, you would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Don’t let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that IF YOU LOSE SOMEONE TODAY, IT MEANS THAT SOMEONE BETTER IS COMING TOMORROW: If you lose love it doesn’t mean that you failed in love. Cry, if you have to, but make it sure that the tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you. Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime. When you lose someone… and you think you were the one who loved most, between the two of you… he lost more. For someday you can love someone the way that you loved him… But he will never be loved again the way that you did.


Hello everyone!

Im back on Blogging! geeeessee! I just missed it a lot. Well, I guess Im off to have a better blogging prowess this time. After the downfall, stumbling and crunching, now Im finally breaking it free! More liberation, more mature, more real and perhaps more time to log on. LOL!
This post I have below was somehow the sum of those months or year I stop blogging on the net. Funny right? I stop on the net but then again I have more than one written somewhere else! Hahaha ( i'll have them posted later on :) )
These were the learnings, insights and realizations I had during those times I was picking up the broken me. I want to share it to people not to brag on anything nor to have a nitch of dictation but for them to know that they are not alone suffering the uncertainties and unfairness of life, that I was once had my fair share of loosing, that other people also had their times of broken dreams and that whatever they are in right now is but part of human existence. Life maybe is a very huge topic to discuss and relatively experiences are too vague for each and every person, but all these are given not for us to give up and to say no but for us to fight, stand up and Live!
Rely on the message, not on the personality of the teacher. Rely on the meaning, not just the words. Rely on the real meaning, not just the provisional meaning. Rely on your wisdom and insight, not just on your ordinary judgmental mind. ----Buddha’s Teaching
These truths are also true to me:
1. That the second rule of life is survival and the first rule is that all are one. People are interconnected and that no one lives all for by himself. We live for the oneness of all our purpose.
2. That life is composed of contradictions The pairing of opposites, such as good and bad, ugly and beautiful etc. will always be there. In the human eyes these truths becomes necessary because they not only validate each other but are inextricably linked. As what we usually hear, what is white if we do not know black? What is joy if we do not know sadness? Many times I notice that opposites are also interchangeable. Haven’t we found ourselves eating our words and changing our beliefs, opinions and views and even our morality as our knowledge expands?
3. That everything is perfect “ just as it is” when we surrender to life. Only when we insist on an ideal does life becomes a struggle and the world, a perennial horrible place.
4. That the divine likes to show up in disguises. If you’re lucky, your spiritual journey reaches an important and happy phase (though fleeting) where almost everything you see and encounter is God and there seems to be nothing else but God.
5. That if we can’t find heaven in the here and now, we will never find it. Would you like to agree with me?
6. That if we could ask God what life’s meaning was, God would say, “Its up to you”. And that life is what we make it.
7. That the biggest source of unhappiness is refusing to live in the moment and the second one is rejecting the call to be fully conscious and accepting of one’s power to create one’s reality. But living at the moment has to have the full awareness that there is future that we have to be prepared of.
8. That only what is eternal is real, that the spiritual journey is all about finding the eternal, timeless truths in this temporal set up called “life”
9. That we have it wrong when it comes to dying. Contrary to our beliefs, death is probably the happiest moment in one’s life since everything false and unreal disappears and what remains of us on earth are the good things we have done and undone. And by then we get to meet God and know the unknowable.
10. That despite the level or state of our spirituality and enlightenment, we still have to do the mundane tasks of living. The house still needs to be clean, the plates washed, laundry done, get back to work and earn and other worldly matters to attend to. Enlightenment is not exchanging earth for heaven but finding heaven on earth.
11. That life is complex, and to understand life is to appreciate its many layers of meaning and to accept it as such a step toward living its richness. The richness do not always mean the “money” but rather the state of being happy and contented even with limited or having no money at all.
12. That the truth really sets you free but sometimes it can be first make you extremely mad and uncomfortable.
13. That we can never be happy at the expense of other people. Happiness should come from within. And we should be happy for who we are and what we are and so for the things that we do not have.
14. That what we do for work speaks about what we have and what we do for leisure speaks about what we are. And lucky is the man whose leisure activities bring him what he has.
15. That every moment is fresh and renewing and to partake of its gifts, we must learn to let go of baggage from the past.
16. That to harbor revenge and hatred is like taking a poison and hoping someone else dies.
17. That no matter how much we love and idolize someone, time will come when we will have to outgrow them to come into our own.
18. That we really have choices and whether we like it or not we really have to choose.
19. That what comes around goes around. Whatever we give is more likely what we will receive and more.
20. That things happens for a reason and not until things happened is the only time when we will know what is the reason.
21. That Divine intervention is always there only that you have to ask for it.
This last rule I learned seems fair to all…

22. That there are days when I am stupid, dense, unconscious, stubborn and not attentive and so none of the above can seem true for me.
And that’s all right! After all, its what I have learned that matters the most.