Sunday, August 16, 2009

All Of A Sudden...

...... I feel I need to end it, not for whatever reason but because I know its the right thing to do. Initially, before everything had started I had the clear understanding of what it should be, "we" had the common point as to where our lines should cross and our bounderies should mend. It has been goin' on for almost a year now, Im free but technically not single. He, on the other hand is single with a girlfriend. None amongst our peers knew what we have as we made a pact not to put a face on it. He works in the next building where I am and so his girlfriend too. He is genuinely nice I must say, a typical guy who admire, who dream, who explore, who love and I guess a typical guy who like amongst us not contented. And maybe that is why we made a click. We've known each other through a common friend and later had an understanding which was meeting the horizon of what I do not have and what he might have been abundant upon that mislead him to have been lack of it. I admire his being honest and open, I always caught myself off guarded with his questions ( I dont know if he noticed it ). I like his ways of protecting what "we have". I understood that it should be. Sometimes my reason will empower me and will tell me that nothing is wrong with what Im doing but more often that not I know in me it has.

Not until yesterday that we saw each other after two months, that we had a great talk of almost anything and everything under the sun. I was able to listen to him sharing about his past, his failures and successes and his dreams, I hear him saying about how bitter he was before with life and so on... Then we came to the point of him asking me what was my life like, what happened and if I was married, that caught me off guarded again.. Im never open about my private life, only choosen few knew it all and to be honest I dont want him to know. Because I can see no importance of him knowing it and what "we" have does not concern each other to begin with.

Then I realize one thing, I cant be like this forever. I cant be with him all the time and so is he to me. "We" cant hide it from people and I cant afford to loose face infront of them. Because I know first of all that it is wrong. He is too nice that I will be sad if something will go wrong with him and his girlfriend ( which I know is going on before I came in the scene) which I also guess was aggreviated because of my presence.

I just heard mass tonight before I connect all these thoughts and emotions and the priests said " intellectual ability or intelligence is defying yourself to what is right and doing it and what is wrong and staying away from it ; he also mentioned that sin in any level and God does not go together and whatever justifications we have will never make things right in the eyes of God".....and this made me realize that I may not know what lies ahead of me but my faith should lead me to where I should be and to whom should I belong...

And you know the bottom of this all? Its because Im falling.... somewhere in between.

One great line I learn all this time about love and life.... we can never be happy at the expense of other people and I know its true.

I dont hope for ours to last nor wish for theirs to end. I just pray that this will make us better individuals and this goodbye will endure the present.

Friday, July 17, 2009

These Ought to be His Rule!

This one was shared by a male collegue and over dinner was able to have a healthy debate as these were generally true or merely fussyness of men.. lol.

Well, read down below and tell me what you think.. Here it is

Their confessions....

At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down Finally , the guys' side of the story.
(I must admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear "the rules"
From the female side.
Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are our rules!
Please note.. these are all numbered "1"

1. Men ARE not mind readers.

1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
We need it up, you need it down.
You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.

1. Sunday sports. It's like the full moon
or the changing of the tides.
Let it be.

1. Shopping is NOT a sport.
And no, we are never going to think of it that way.

1. Crying is blackmail.

1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!

1. Yes and No are perfectly Acceptable answers to almost every question.

1. Come to us with a problem only If you want help solving it. That's what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.

1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem See a doctor.

1. Anyth ing we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.
In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.

1. If you won't dress like the Victoria 's Secret girls, don't Expect us to act like soap opera guys.

1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.
Don't ask us.

1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one

1. You can either ask us to do something
Or tell us how you want it done.
Not both.
If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.

1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.

1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not! A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.

1. If it itches, it will Be scratched.
We do that.

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong.
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.

1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.

1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear Is fine... Really .

1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as baseball, the shotgun formation,
or golf.

1. You have enough clothes.

1. You have too many shoes.

1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!

1. Thank you for reading this.
1. I know men had a big laugh because this is what we really are and I know women had bigger laugh because they thought this is just a joke!

Sunday, July 5, 2009

The Wooden Bowl

You will surely love this story as much as I do...
The Wooden Bowl.
I guarantee you will remember the tale of the Wooden Bowl tomorrow, a week from now, a month from now, a year from now. Here is the story....A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. 'We must do something about father,' said the son. 'I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.' So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, 'What are you making?' Just as sweetly, the boy responded, 'Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up. ' The four-year-old smiled and went back to work. The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.
On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things: a rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.
I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as making a 'life..'
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands.You need to be able to throw something back sometimes.
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.
I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back and lastly.....
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.

Friday, June 26, 2009

.... hahaha! you are soooo funny my nff... youre always a validation that i am a woman and that i am human! sorry if u havent heard from me for quiet a while, never get the chance to call or text you since our time is crazy different and i dont want to text w/ no replies?! hahaha
everything is fine over here. i might have few assignments somewhere else for a couple of months and i hope i can drop by cdo again before the year ends. geeese! i will be bringing all my school and paperworks with me! da da da!
oh well, i hope to catch you soon. i have read your blogs so i responded here too. i know your checking ur sites and blogs everyday so i know u'll gonna read me after this... i'll let u know for other concerns i might have about it, but it's doin' pretty well and i guess its all ok now.
ciao my nff! wish to see you back when i get back.... mwah!

Sunday, June 14, 2009

Thoughts To Consider As You Raise Up A Child

Remember that a child is a gift from God, the richest of all blessings. Do not attempt to mold him in the image of yourself, your father, your brother or neighbour. Each child is an individual and should be permitted to be himself.
Don't crush a child's spirit when he fails. Never compare him with others who have outshone him.
Remember that anger and hostility are natural emotions. Help your child to find socially acceptable outlets for these normal feelings or they may turn inward and erupt in the form of physical or mental illness.
Discipline your child with firmness and reason. Don't let your anger throw you off balance. If he knows you are fair you will not lose his respect or love. Always make sure the punishment fits the crime. Even the youngest child has a keen sense of justice.
Remember that each child needs two parents. Present a united front. Never join with your child against your mate. This can create in your child emotional conflicts. It can also create feelings of guilt, confusion and insecurity.
Do not hand your child everything his little heart desires. Permit him to know the trill of earning and the joy of achieving. Grant him the greatest of all satisfactions - the pleasure that comes with personal accomplishment.
Do not set yourself up as the epitome of perfection. This is a difficult role to play 24 hours a day. You will find it easier to communicate with your child if you let him know that mom and dad err, too.
Don't make threats in anger, or impossible promises when you are in a generous mood. Threaten or promise only that which you can live up to. To a child, a parent's word means everything. The child who has lost faith in his parents has difficulty believing in anything.
Do not smother your child with superficial manifestation of "love". The purest and healthiest love expresses itself in day-in, day-out training which breeds self confidence and independence.
Teach your child there is dignity in hard work, whether it is performed with callused hands that shovel coal or skilled fingers that manipulate surgical instruments. Let him know a useful life is a blessed one and a life of ease and pleasure-seeking is empty and meaningless.
Do not try to protect your child against every small blow and disappointment. Adversity strengthens character and makes us compassionate. Trouble is the great equalizer. Let him learn it.
Teach your child to love the Creator and to love all his fellow man. Don't send your child to a place of worship - take him there. Children learn from example. Telling him something is not teaching him. If you give your child a deep and abiding faith in God, it can be his strength and his light when all else fails.
If you are a single parent, surround yourself by loving and supportive friends, role models for your child. It takes a whole community to raise a child.

Thursday, June 11, 2009

I Apologize...

.... for the inconvenience but Im freakin' busy these past few days or make it weeks. Going back to school and working at the same time with a little cup of tea isnt always easy. But it was fun and worth doing. I still yet to post some updates I have soon but for the mean time I would like to say sorry to my friends whom I had never get the chance to bond with when I was there. Im sure you all understood. Kangkie is doing fine right now. And everything is doing wonderfully great!
Gotta go! my day is YTB! Have a Blessed day ahead everyone!

Sunday, May 31, 2009

Life and Love

Three passions have governed my life: The longings for love, the search for knowledge, And unbearable pity for the suffering of (humankind).

Love brings ecstasy and relieves loneliness. In the union of love I have seen In a mystic miniature the prefiguring vision Of the heavens that saints and poets have imagined.
With equal passion I have sought knowledge. I have wished to understand the hearts of [people]. I have wished to know why the stars shine.

Love and knowledge led upwards to the heavens, But always pity brought me back to earth; Cries of pain reverberated in my heart Of children in famine, of victims tortured And of old people left helpless. I long to alleviate the evil, but I cannot, And I too suffer.
This has been my life; I found it worth living. ( adapted)

Thursday, May 28, 2009

Blah blah blah

I know you're checking on me.... so read and understand!
How funny of you becoming freak and paranoid about something that do not exists. I shall inform you just in case you do not know or maybe you know but you cant do something about it. The real horror is right infront of you, close to where you are located and near enough to snitch your breathing apparatus. Remember when I told you I'll get back at you because Im not done yet? Huh?! I guess I have already forgotten 'em but since your starting all over again and trying to put up a fight?! Then Im sorry because I will not step down to your level, I dont fight with loosers and soon to be loosers. And oh! my mom told me too never to fight with ugly people as these ugly people dont have anything to loose.
Dont whine on me on your misfortune and on what your ordeal is right now. What you have right now is the price you have to pay for the things you have done before. And you should be thinking straight, straight enough not to blame others about all of this but yourself! And please, stop sending me sms and private msgs online, its not me who needs them its you.

Monday, May 25, 2009

Missing Home

There is no better word to describe what Im feeling right now but the word " miss"! Sigh! Its not very long when I went back home but I just cant help feeling the loneliness inside and the truns of my nerves to visit CdO again. Its crazy because Ive never been like this. I dont know, maybe its up for something else.

I guess I have to file another SIL again and fly back home. Geese! The whole thing is driving me nuts! Darn!

Well, see you Gold City! I hope everything is ok when I get there.


Thursday, May 7, 2009

The Gift

The reason for my being....


Just wanna share this.... Something to pull ourselves through when we might be needing one..
If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is YOU.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behaviour. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Thank YOU

Happy regardless, is what and where I am right now. Thankfully I have this from within, though at times things are not happening the way I want them.. Well guess what?! it turned out to be what is more than Im wanting! I always believe that things happens for a reason and purpose. It may be very hurtful, upsetting and discouraging but at the end of the day it all boils down as to what have you done, how much effort you have exerted and how much Faith you've had with all the circumcetances of life we've been facing. As I always reminded, whatever we have right now is the sum of the things we did and that if you want to receive goodness, you have to be good yourself.
Yes, we are human and part of it are unfairness, lies, insecurities, failures, success and etc., and because of this, we may not get what is due to us or give what is due to others. But it doesnt end there, because if we humans wasnt able to recognize what is due to ourselves then there is always what we called Divine Intervention and everything will not gone to waste.
I may not have tried and tasted all kinds of pain and happiness other people does. But I sure know what are these, and was proud enough that I was able to pull it through and be happy regardless.
Thank you!

Wednesday, April 15, 2009


Got this from one of my emails at work. Very interesting and useful. Here enjoy and keep updated!

There are a few things that can be done in times of grave emergencies. Your mobile phone can actually be a life saver or an emergency tool for survival. Check out the things that you can do with it:
FIRST Emergency The Emergency Number worldwide for Mobile is 112. If you find yourself out of the coverage area of your mobile; network and there is an emergency, dial 112 and the mobile will search any existing network to establish the emergency number for you, and interestingly this number 112 can be dialed even if the keypad is locked. Try it out.
SECOND Have you locked your keys in the car? Does your car have remote keyless entry? This may come in handy someday. Good reason to own a cell phone: If you lock your keys in the car and the spare keys are at home, call someone at home on their mobile phone from your cell phone. Hold your cell phone about a foot from your car door and have the person at your home press the unlock button, holding it near the mobile phone on their end. Your car will unlock. Saves someone from having to drive your keys to you. Distance is no object. You could be hundreds of miles away, and if you can reach someone who has the other 'remote' for your car, you can unlock the doors (or the trunk).. Editor's Note: It works fine! We tried it out and it unlocked our car over a mobile phone!
THIRD Hidden Battery Power Imagine your mobile battery is very low. To activate, press the keys *3370# Your mobile will restart with this reserve and the instrument will show a 50% increase in battery. This reserve will get charged when you charge your mobile next time. FOURTH How to disable a STOLEN mobile phone? To check your Mobile phone's serial number, key in the following digits on your phone: * # 0 6 # A 15 digit code will appear on the screen. This number is unique to your handset. Write it down and keep it somewhere safe. When your phone get stolen, you can phone your service provider and give them this code. They will then be able to block your handset so even if the thief changes the SIM card, your phone will be totally useless. You probably won't get your phone back, but at least you know that whoever stole it can't use/sell it either. If everybody does this, there would be no point in people stealing mobile phones.
FIFTH ATM - PIN Number Reversal - Good to Know If you should ever be forced by a robber to withdraw money from an ATM machine, you can notify the police by entering your PIN # in reverse. For example, if your pin number is 1234, then you would put in 4321. The ATM system recognizes that your PIN number is backwards from the ATM card you placed in the machine. The machine will still give you the money you requested, but unknown to the robber, the police will be immediately dispatched to the location.
This information was recently broadcast on CTV by Crime Stoppers however it is seldom used because people just don't know about it. Please pass this along to everyone.. This is the kind of information people don't mind receiving, so pass it on to your family and friends

Friday, March 13, 2009

Take Care of Your Golf Balls First

This one was being forwarded from a friend. Its very nice and I wish to share it to everyone and enjoy the way I do!
When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the beer. A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "Yes!'"The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. "Now," said the professor as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. "The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else---the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you." "Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand. "One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented. The professor smiled and said, "I'm glad you asked." "The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple beer with a friend."

Wednesday, March 11, 2009


I have been blogging long enough that I even forgot my password back when I decided to let go of it. In my blogs I always intend to express what I thought, to inform and educate what has to be known for some who dont have the access for such an information. I never intend my blogging to be the spree of mediocrity. I heartfully would love to have a blogging site free from indifference if possible, injustice if applicable and downsides as much as possible. But everyone knows it'll be impossible and I should know too. Because we cater different moods and emotions when we come up with a blog and I know most blogs are opinionated if not one sided. Im aware there are 3 great sides of the story, in a situation that recalls, it is essential that all three sides shall be considered or else a bias judgment will come to flow and we dont want that; no one want that.

In our quest to see the light and justice, it is very essential that all sides should be heard. Some truths of today are really excruciatingly painful, even disgusting and very uncomfortable and I should know that. Repeatedly I will not be ashame that I too once crunch the harsh reality of life. And good enough I never had my grudge and anger over power me, with the grace from above and with the help of some friends I was able to think clearly as to what I should do and not do, having known the fact of a child involved not to mention a career and reputation to conceal I was able to have at least a family that this child if not could brag but can consider in her future.

Lucky enough I listened and pondered. What if I did the other way around? As others were suggesting me to do? Will I have a life better than what I have now? Will it be as peaceful as what I have now? Then I realize the true meaning of sacrifice and love. I had the excruciating pain fair enough to have my world stop for awhile but it didnt lasts. Wherever side of the story the situation may ask you to endure, it is always better to have a sound judgment not basing on the pain you feel but on the future at stake, for yourself and for the one you love. We can never have an impartial judgment when we feel pain and that is why conflicts and misunderstanding comes in.

I sacrificed my anger and my strong will to get even. I felt betrayed and humiliated after what he did. But everything is too late for him now and unluckily he will never have my love he used to have. Over time my anger has passed. Now Im a lot stronger, a lot wiser and more careful.

Im looking forward for a better tomorrow for the child... And that I will pray.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009


One blogger made a comment on one of my posts entitled A DIME FOR A THOUGHT. ( see actual comment underneath). The posts was all about "letting go", not so much to my surprise that a certain comment and respond can be made, because I know situations differs, value formation matters and spiritual orientation counts.

Miss Dharlz heftly commented on the posts her thoughts about what she thinks on letting go of things. And after going over with her own blogsite, I found out roughly what she is going through and as a person I perfectly understand where she is coming from. And I respect whatever views she has on the posts in a way I respect her opinion about the concept of letting go.

But this, at some point bothers me because I can feel anger, hatred, anguish and anxiety on her way of stressing out what she have been through. I understand that she is a mom who at some point is fighting for something she feels she and her daughter deserves. The way it was told, she prefer the "bastard" to be in jail and learn his lesson the hard way. Im not quite sure what she meant by this, but if this means the father of her daughter or a trusted friend who betrayed deliberately that harmed her chick then I would understand the battle, just like any mother who would kill for their children. But if this concerns the latter, having the father of your child be summoned to jail isnt really a good idea especially if the whole situation do not justify whatever is the outcome.

I am pro women and I always make sure I am heard and that I can freely express what I thought. I also make sure justice prevails on any given situation. In such cases we need not think in depth as what we will going to do if a situation calls for an immediate action. Consecquently if a situation calls for an in depth thinking because there is a child or another life lesser than we are that is involve we tend to think that we are more oppressed having that given fact. Like the comment made, if Miss Dharlz pertains that "bastard" to be the father of her child and be that person in jail to learn his lesson the hard way behind bars and if her reasons do not justify the future her child then personally the battle is pointless. Why? because as a mother I know that its always the family that comes first, its everybody's dream to have a complete one as we grow older. Now pointing out on putting the father of your child in jail for a reason that you feel downsided because you may not have a career to push through and in the long run your daughter cant have a brighter future because the other party isnt ammenable for marriage then I dont think the whole thing makes sense. Winning this kind of battle is superficial. Its selfishness to yourself and to the child as well. How would you explain to your daughter what happen to her father when time comes she starts asking. How would like your daughter to have a biological father to be imprisoned and worst you are the cause of it all, and how is it possible for you to sleep well at night when you know your daughter will be visiting in prison just for her to know who her father is. And that I do not undertand, because if I were to consider the child's welfare in the long run having that said will not do any good especially to the child.

I am not taking side on either of the party involved on this respond. What I am just trying to point out is we can fight fair and square without having to have such an outcome in the future for the child. Think of a better resolution that will ensure the future of the child. A resolution that do not resound guilt and complications in the future. A resolution that is fair enough for your spirit, for the child and for the rest that are involved.I completely understand the anger, hatred and frustrations that these kind of situations brought to you. But then again the bottom line of this isnt just for ourselves, not just for our own personal interests but more importantly a promising future that can be tainted because of unrelinquish inacceptance of the reality.

And this my friend is what I thought, to you it may sound idealistic. It may sound melo dramatic but think it over and ponder. You are a full grown successful woman, dont be too clouded with what you think is right, if you are thinking a your child's future... then think again and consider better option.

Monday, March 2, 2009


Which do you prefer? Growing old or Growing up? A very simple question that everyone thought has an easy answer. You bet! That is the question most people dont have a ready answer. Do you think Im wrong? I should know because I too dont have a ready answer for a such simple question before and most of us are.

We always know that growing old is part of being human, and is one of the developmental stages a normal human being or even animals has to go through. And I think growing old is given, because if people dont grow old then where is he?

Along with growing old is an addition of age and apparently that is how we gauge how old a person is, aside of course from wrinkles and sagging skin. So generally its the physical appearance that we take a look to check if a person is already old or not.

But have we ever have a way to check if a person has grown up? Literally growing up is measured with height. But this isnt what I meant and that is why I dont have a literal meaning of it.

As what I concluded myself, Growing Old is Mandatory; Growing Up is Optional. Again getting old is normal and is a natural process of human existence. But growing up? It sure is a natural process too but how do we know if a person has grown up? How do we measure if a person had grown enough?

One old man over a friend's beerday said, " a person will always know he is getting old but he'll never know what have he got during these time". I seem to agree because personally growing up depends on life's experiences, the society you're with matters, the kind of people you go with counts and the spiritual relationship you have answers them all. A lot of young people I know from work seems to talk like 10 yrs older than me and upon learning and listening to their lifestory, I learnt it wasnt an easy life they went through just to be where they are right now. Others also who seems to be really older than me talks like 10 yrs younger than me and after knowing what they've got it seems that it all boils down to life's experiences.

I've known a lot of man too who seems old outside but really havent grown yet, and I wondered why. Because if getting old is equivalent to learning and if learning is how we measure if a person have grown or not, then how can a person be senseless and self centered after going through a lot of age and life's experiences?

See? its vague. And the answer to the question really depends one's experience, together with his environment,education,family life and all other essential part of being human.

But this I would like to partake, growing old is Mandatory; growing up is Optional. Seems true. We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give. Choices are always available, we'll just have to make it an option.

And be happy regardless.

Friday, February 27, 2009


This one is for a "friend" who battles for an unrequited love.
Sometimes, in our relentless efforts to find the person we love we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us. We missed out on so many beautiful things and simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns. Go for the man of deeds and not for the man of words for you will find rewarding happiness. The best lovers are those who are capable of loving from a distance, far enough to allow the other person to grow, but never too far to feel the love deep within your being. To let go of someone doesn’t mean you have to stop loving, it only means that you allow that person to find his own HAPPINESS without expecting him to come back. Letting go is not just setting the other person free,but it is also setting yourself free from all fears, bitterness, hatred, and anger that is kept in the heart. Do not let the bitterness rare away your strength and weaken your faith,and never allow pain to dishearten you, but rather let you grow with wisdom in bearing it. You may have found peace in just loving someone from a distance not expecting anything in return.But be careful, for this can sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow. We can all survive with just beautiful memories from the past but real peace and happiness comes only with open acceptance of what reality is today. There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person. This feeling soon become a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions. The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than just friendship, or the feelings he might have for you is just too far from how you love him. We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves. You don’t have to be bitter on love. What you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself. Believe me, you would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving. Don’t let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself. Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well. Always remember that IF YOU LOSE SOMEONE TODAY, IT MEANS THAT SOMEONE BETTER IS COMING TOMORROW: If you lose love it doesn’t mean that you failed in love. Cry, if you have to, but make it sure that the tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you. Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you. And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime. When you lose someone… and you think you were the one who loved most, between the two of you… he lost more. For someday you can love someone the way that you loved him… But he will never be loved again the way that you did.


Hello everyone!

Im back on Blogging! geeeessee! I just missed it a lot. Well, I guess Im off to have a better blogging prowess this time. After the downfall, stumbling and crunching, now Im finally breaking it free! More liberation, more mature, more real and perhaps more time to log on. LOL!
This post I have below was somehow the sum of those months or year I stop blogging on the net. Funny right? I stop on the net but then again I have more than one written somewhere else! Hahaha ( i'll have them posted later on :) )
These were the learnings, insights and realizations I had during those times I was picking up the broken me. I want to share it to people not to brag on anything nor to have a nitch of dictation but for them to know that they are not alone suffering the uncertainties and unfairness of life, that I was once had my fair share of loosing, that other people also had their times of broken dreams and that whatever they are in right now is but part of human existence. Life maybe is a very huge topic to discuss and relatively experiences are too vague for each and every person, but all these are given not for us to give up and to say no but for us to fight, stand up and Live!
Rely on the message, not on the personality of the teacher. Rely on the meaning, not just the words. Rely on the real meaning, not just the provisional meaning. Rely on your wisdom and insight, not just on your ordinary judgmental mind. ----Buddha’s Teaching
These truths are also true to me:
1. That the second rule of life is survival and the first rule is that all are one. People are interconnected and that no one lives all for by himself. We live for the oneness of all our purpose.
2. That life is composed of contradictions The pairing of opposites, such as good and bad, ugly and beautiful etc. will always be there. In the human eyes these truths becomes necessary because they not only validate each other but are inextricably linked. As what we usually hear, what is white if we do not know black? What is joy if we do not know sadness? Many times I notice that opposites are also interchangeable. Haven’t we found ourselves eating our words and changing our beliefs, opinions and views and even our morality as our knowledge expands?
3. That everything is perfect “ just as it is” when we surrender to life. Only when we insist on an ideal does life becomes a struggle and the world, a perennial horrible place.
4. That the divine likes to show up in disguises. If you’re lucky, your spiritual journey reaches an important and happy phase (though fleeting) where almost everything you see and encounter is God and there seems to be nothing else but God.
5. That if we can’t find heaven in the here and now, we will never find it. Would you like to agree with me?
6. That if we could ask God what life’s meaning was, God would say, “Its up to you”. And that life is what we make it.
7. That the biggest source of unhappiness is refusing to live in the moment and the second one is rejecting the call to be fully conscious and accepting of one’s power to create one’s reality. But living at the moment has to have the full awareness that there is future that we have to be prepared of.
8. That only what is eternal is real, that the spiritual journey is all about finding the eternal, timeless truths in this temporal set up called “life”
9. That we have it wrong when it comes to dying. Contrary to our beliefs, death is probably the happiest moment in one’s life since everything false and unreal disappears and what remains of us on earth are the good things we have done and undone. And by then we get to meet God and know the unknowable.
10. That despite the level or state of our spirituality and enlightenment, we still have to do the mundane tasks of living. The house still needs to be clean, the plates washed, laundry done, get back to work and earn and other worldly matters to attend to. Enlightenment is not exchanging earth for heaven but finding heaven on earth.
11. That life is complex, and to understand life is to appreciate its many layers of meaning and to accept it as such a step toward living its richness. The richness do not always mean the “money” but rather the state of being happy and contented even with limited or having no money at all.
12. That the truth really sets you free but sometimes it can be first make you extremely mad and uncomfortable.
13. That we can never be happy at the expense of other people. Happiness should come from within. And we should be happy for who we are and what we are and so for the things that we do not have.
14. That what we do for work speaks about what we have and what we do for leisure speaks about what we are. And lucky is the man whose leisure activities bring him what he has.
15. That every moment is fresh and renewing and to partake of its gifts, we must learn to let go of baggage from the past.
16. That to harbor revenge and hatred is like taking a poison and hoping someone else dies.
17. That no matter how much we love and idolize someone, time will come when we will have to outgrow them to come into our own.
18. That we really have choices and whether we like it or not we really have to choose.
19. That what comes around goes around. Whatever we give is more likely what we will receive and more.
20. That things happens for a reason and not until things happened is the only time when we will know what is the reason.
21. That Divine intervention is always there only that you have to ask for it.
This last rule I learned seems fair to all…

22. That there are days when I am stupid, dense, unconscious, stubborn and not attentive and so none of the above can seem true for me.
And that’s all right! After all, its what I have learned that matters the most.