Sunday, July 5, 2009

The Wooden Bowl

You will surely love this story as much as I do...
The Wooden Bowl.
I guarantee you will remember the tale of the Wooden Bowl tomorrow, a week from now, a month from now, a year from now. Here is the story....A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth. The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. 'We must do something about father,' said the son. 'I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.' So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl. When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence. One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, 'What are you making?' Just as sweetly, the boy responded, 'Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up. ' The four-year-old smiled and went back to work. The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done. That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.
On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things: a rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.
I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as making a 'life..'
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands.You need to be able to throw something back sometimes.
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.
I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone. People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back and lastly.....
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.


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stirred but not shaken said...

thanks! it really is... with God's grace i hope we are able to give our children love and affection they deserve and will not make a "wooden bowl" for us... **wink

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stirred but not shaken said...

i certainly feel where you are coming from, i know it because im a mom too and i know that most parents will kill just to protect our child. true! woe to to him who have not thought of it and to the rest who caused pain and inconvenience. i've told Lazar many times about it from my own point of view. but he has his priorities in life and plans and maybe people that he chooses to be with. i find him unfair to be honest and i told him that too. i even hated almost half of his flings for running after him over and over again; i even told him to find himself or maybe take a retreat to have a clear view of what future he would like to have. but i dunno he is just simply a lost guy.. lost in spirit ; lost with principle and is consumed with what is today.. with his flings!... and since that is what he wants then give it to him; have him reap what he have sown.. more than anybody else you alone will suffice to make Zarelle a beautiful person in the future rather that having his father beside her which uncontrollably chauvanist and egocentric!.. im not always in agreement with his actions and he is aware of that.. we always clash esp in deciding things.. and this is one the longest clashes we have ever since... and he was happy im away.. hahaha because he cant hear my sermon every now and then.. move on with your life and zarelle but do not include him; let him move his feet where he wanna go.. aja! bahala na si batman nya kay wala cyay klaro! hihihi

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stirred but not shaken said...

hay naku! how could you ever think of me and Lazar an item? isnt is clear for you? dont u know how to read between the lines? or maybe u know but you read it too much.. samok sad diay ka ka storya usahay noh? bahala ka oi... siguro magbinasaya ko para makasabot ka.. naa ba sa akong linya nga akoun na si Lazar.. pwera gaba! inyo na cya.. ikaw imo na na cya. do i sound like covering him up? do u think im doing this so u wont pursue the case? im not stupid to do that, blogging will not decide your fate its the court and if im covering him up i wont blog! haller?!!! unsa bay kalabutan sa blog!

alangan dili mi mag uban sa pasko nga didto man cya among balay nagpasko.. wala gani cya sa ila or sa iligan sa imo pa kaha nga dili mo good terms?! are u expecting that for lili or for yourself.. geeese! u should have known the answer..

to be completely honest i pity ur situation and is always telling Lazar to at least be responsible for Lili kay kabalo ko walay labot ang bata nga dili nya halos bisitahon; I AM HIS FRIEND!!! we are not at all a couple and never we will be.. wala siguro ka kaila nko; but ive known u well enough way back, i left cdo for a couple of years ago and talagsa nalang ko kauli.. so mao na cya. undangi na imong ka praning kay matigulang kag dali ana day... ipapriso cya kung gusto nimo cya ipapriso, bahala ka inyo nang problema duha.. kung ma priso cya di bisitahon ko nalang cya sa prisohan.. ingana lang kasayon..


btw, i know that case in iligan; he emailed me the info.. ug pasagdi nalang cya kay iya mana problema; unless kung gusto ka maki saw2 naa ra na nimo.. gubuta samot imong life..

i hope i made myself clear enough.

stirred but not shaken said...

its not important at all nga makabalo ka kinsa ko... what for? u dont even care to understand even just my words... i understand and thats simly because ur hurting.. and if u think im not helping u in anyway, i dont care less.. its ur life not mine. but i will always help Lazar probably to have more sound judgement esp when it comes to his personal life.. he seems pathetic when it comes to that...

La koy labot sa inahan ni Raven.. daghan pa na sila basin la ka kabalo...


stirred but not shaken said...

Whatever! Naa ra man diay na.. You have said your piece.. So be it!
I dont care less kung unsa imong buhaton oi. If that is what u think is right and will make u happy in the end then do it. I dont symphatize Lazar for his actions because first of all I know its wrong and that is the reason why I help him and (indirectly you) to at least have his way to towards you because I know he can be better off if its you he chooses with. Dont tell me craps because you and your sister do not have any idea as to what I did in order for things be at least better if not right for all of you esp to your daughter. Im not doing this for myself .. as if naa koy makuha kung maglabot-labot ko sa inyo. I know ur clouded with your anger with what Lazar did and and I cant blame you... I will also feel the same way and probably do the same thing and more if that happens to me. Now that this have come then wala tay mahimo, in as much as malouy ko ni Lazar dili nko mahimong maluoy nya kay kabalo ko nga sal-an gyud cya ug foul gyud iyang gibuhat. You know what Lazar was like. You know why you love him before and still is loving him now and I know u will not have Lili out of nothing. And like you I was stunned to know that he became like that, irresponsible with his own daughter and mean to his own actions. I know you're mad at him because he wasnt the same person u used to know; he wasnt the same Lazar you believe to be inlove with.. and that pains me too as his friend because I know he wasnt like that...

But all has been said and done, whoever and whatever is the cause of this all does not matter anymore. All that is there is a parental feud Lili has to watch upon and wait who will win. And again if all these that u are doing will make things even for you and Lili then I will even support you doing so.. We have the Law for Man and since we are human it is but normal that we sublime to the law of man.. Please do not get me wrong as what is happening right now, I am not begging you to do anything against what you believe in. I am not dectating u as to what u should or u should not do. I am not looking at you as the culprit. I am not judging you for who you are; circumcetances like these are in a two way traffic. And I dont think Im causing harm because as far as I know Im pushing Lazar to you ever since and convince him to get married to you because I find you a better complimenting partner and I think you are one man woman a man could desire for and of course because of Lili.. But I guess all of these has been misunderstood even if I had it clarified several times..

This is quite a novel now and I dont intent to have one for nothing. Undangan na ta ni kay dili ta maghuman, gahi ka ug ulo.. gahi ra ba pud ko ug ulo pero pareho ta duha idukada so humanon na ta ni kay wala tay paingnan.. dili nko intensyon makig away; manamok ug magpasakit. Kung wala ka kasabot aning tanan ok lang dili nko ipugos ang dili nimo masabtan. Wala ko naglaban kang Lazar para kaulitan ko nimo mas nasabtan pa tika kaysa sa iya. Dont treat like ur enemy because Im not. Pero kung nalahi nimo pagsabot wala na koy mahimo basta kay undangan na ta ni... Ayaw ug comment sa akong mga post kung ingani ang mahimong dagan sa atong istorya, mura ta ug gaaway nga dili man unta dapat. And i dont intent my posts to lit grudges and anger likewise i made and post them to inform and help.

Do what you have to do. And thats it... Im done.

** to your sister, I dont have any business with her and i need not explain myself all over again.