Friday, March 13, 2009

Take Care of Your Golf Balls First

This one was being forwarded from a friend. Its very nice and I wish to share it to everyone and enjoy the way I do!
When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the beer. A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "Yes!'"The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed. "Now," said the professor as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things---your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions---and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. "The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car. The sand is everything else---the small stuff. "If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "There is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you." "Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal. Take care of the golf balls first---the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand. "One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the beer represented. The professor smiled and said, "I'm glad you asked." "The beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple beer with a friend."

Wednesday, March 11, 2009


I have been blogging long enough that I even forgot my password back when I decided to let go of it. In my blogs I always intend to express what I thought, to inform and educate what has to be known for some who dont have the access for such an information. I never intend my blogging to be the spree of mediocrity. I heartfully would love to have a blogging site free from indifference if possible, injustice if applicable and downsides as much as possible. But everyone knows it'll be impossible and I should know too. Because we cater different moods and emotions when we come up with a blog and I know most blogs are opinionated if not one sided. Im aware there are 3 great sides of the story, in a situation that recalls, it is essential that all three sides shall be considered or else a bias judgment will come to flow and we dont want that; no one want that.

In our quest to see the light and justice, it is very essential that all sides should be heard. Some truths of today are really excruciatingly painful, even disgusting and very uncomfortable and I should know that. Repeatedly I will not be ashame that I too once crunch the harsh reality of life. And good enough I never had my grudge and anger over power me, with the grace from above and with the help of some friends I was able to think clearly as to what I should do and not do, having known the fact of a child involved not to mention a career and reputation to conceal I was able to have at least a family that this child if not could brag but can consider in her future.

Lucky enough I listened and pondered. What if I did the other way around? As others were suggesting me to do? Will I have a life better than what I have now? Will it be as peaceful as what I have now? Then I realize the true meaning of sacrifice and love. I had the excruciating pain fair enough to have my world stop for awhile but it didnt lasts. Wherever side of the story the situation may ask you to endure, it is always better to have a sound judgment not basing on the pain you feel but on the future at stake, for yourself and for the one you love. We can never have an impartial judgment when we feel pain and that is why conflicts and misunderstanding comes in.

I sacrificed my anger and my strong will to get even. I felt betrayed and humiliated after what he did. But everything is too late for him now and unluckily he will never have my love he used to have. Over time my anger has passed. Now Im a lot stronger, a lot wiser and more careful.

Im looking forward for a better tomorrow for the child... And that I will pray.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009


One blogger made a comment on one of my posts entitled A DIME FOR A THOUGHT. ( see actual comment underneath). The posts was all about "letting go", not so much to my surprise that a certain comment and respond can be made, because I know situations differs, value formation matters and spiritual orientation counts.

Miss Dharlz heftly commented on the posts her thoughts about what she thinks on letting go of things. And after going over with her own blogsite, I found out roughly what she is going through and as a person I perfectly understand where she is coming from. And I respect whatever views she has on the posts in a way I respect her opinion about the concept of letting go.

But this, at some point bothers me because I can feel anger, hatred, anguish and anxiety on her way of stressing out what she have been through. I understand that she is a mom who at some point is fighting for something she feels she and her daughter deserves. The way it was told, she prefer the "bastard" to be in jail and learn his lesson the hard way. Im not quite sure what she meant by this, but if this means the father of her daughter or a trusted friend who betrayed deliberately that harmed her chick then I would understand the battle, just like any mother who would kill for their children. But if this concerns the latter, having the father of your child be summoned to jail isnt really a good idea especially if the whole situation do not justify whatever is the outcome.

I am pro women and I always make sure I am heard and that I can freely express what I thought. I also make sure justice prevails on any given situation. In such cases we need not think in depth as what we will going to do if a situation calls for an immediate action. Consecquently if a situation calls for an in depth thinking because there is a child or another life lesser than we are that is involve we tend to think that we are more oppressed having that given fact. Like the comment made, if Miss Dharlz pertains that "bastard" to be the father of her child and be that person in jail to learn his lesson the hard way behind bars and if her reasons do not justify the future her child then personally the battle is pointless. Why? because as a mother I know that its always the family that comes first, its everybody's dream to have a complete one as we grow older. Now pointing out on putting the father of your child in jail for a reason that you feel downsided because you may not have a career to push through and in the long run your daughter cant have a brighter future because the other party isnt ammenable for marriage then I dont think the whole thing makes sense. Winning this kind of battle is superficial. Its selfishness to yourself and to the child as well. How would you explain to your daughter what happen to her father when time comes she starts asking. How would like your daughter to have a biological father to be imprisoned and worst you are the cause of it all, and how is it possible for you to sleep well at night when you know your daughter will be visiting in prison just for her to know who her father is. And that I do not undertand, because if I were to consider the child's welfare in the long run having that said will not do any good especially to the child.

I am not taking side on either of the party involved on this respond. What I am just trying to point out is we can fight fair and square without having to have such an outcome in the future for the child. Think of a better resolution that will ensure the future of the child. A resolution that do not resound guilt and complications in the future. A resolution that is fair enough for your spirit, for the child and for the rest that are involved.I completely understand the anger, hatred and frustrations that these kind of situations brought to you. But then again the bottom line of this isnt just for ourselves, not just for our own personal interests but more importantly a promising future that can be tainted because of unrelinquish inacceptance of the reality.

And this my friend is what I thought, to you it may sound idealistic. It may sound melo dramatic but think it over and ponder. You are a full grown successful woman, dont be too clouded with what you think is right, if you are thinking a your child's future... then think again and consider better option.

Monday, March 2, 2009


Which do you prefer? Growing old or Growing up? A very simple question that everyone thought has an easy answer. You bet! That is the question most people dont have a ready answer. Do you think Im wrong? I should know because I too dont have a ready answer for a such simple question before and most of us are.

We always know that growing old is part of being human, and is one of the developmental stages a normal human being or even animals has to go through. And I think growing old is given, because if people dont grow old then where is he?

Along with growing old is an addition of age and apparently that is how we gauge how old a person is, aside of course from wrinkles and sagging skin. So generally its the physical appearance that we take a look to check if a person is already old or not.

But have we ever have a way to check if a person has grown up? Literally growing up is measured with height. But this isnt what I meant and that is why I dont have a literal meaning of it.

As what I concluded myself, Growing Old is Mandatory; Growing Up is Optional. Again getting old is normal and is a natural process of human existence. But growing up? It sure is a natural process too but how do we know if a person has grown up? How do we measure if a person had grown enough?

One old man over a friend's beerday said, " a person will always know he is getting old but he'll never know what have he got during these time". I seem to agree because personally growing up depends on life's experiences, the society you're with matters, the kind of people you go with counts and the spiritual relationship you have answers them all. A lot of young people I know from work seems to talk like 10 yrs older than me and upon learning and listening to their lifestory, I learnt it wasnt an easy life they went through just to be where they are right now. Others also who seems to be really older than me talks like 10 yrs younger than me and after knowing what they've got it seems that it all boils down to life's experiences.

I've known a lot of man too who seems old outside but really havent grown yet, and I wondered why. Because if getting old is equivalent to learning and if learning is how we measure if a person have grown or not, then how can a person be senseless and self centered after going through a lot of age and life's experiences?

See? its vague. And the answer to the question really depends one's experience, together with his environment,education,family life and all other essential part of being human.

But this I would like to partake, growing old is Mandatory; growing up is Optional. Seems true. We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give. Choices are always available, we'll just have to make it an option.

And be happy regardless.